Intimacy, Desire, and Sex in a Fast-Paced World- Chantelle Otten

How to Keep Desire Alive: Insights from Chantelle Otten

In this episode of Ultragrowth, we sit down with Chantelle Otten to discuss something many of us struggle with—how to maintain intimacy, desire, and connection in our fast-paced, high-pressure lives. Chantelle challenges the common belief that intimacy should just happen naturally. Instead, she highlights the importance of intentionality in building deeper relationships.

For busy professionals, it’s easy for connection to take a backseat. Long hours, endless to-do lists, and competing priorities can leave intimacy feeling like a distant memory. Chantelle shares powerful insights into why the spark fades after dating and how couples can take control to reignite their connection. The secret? It’s not about waiting for desire to return on its own—it’s about leaning in, even when it’s messy and hard.

We also dive into the deeper mental barriers that can block intimacy. Often, these challenges go beyond the relationship itself and start with the individual. Facing your own stories around sexuality, vulnerability, and self-worth is essential for true connection with your partner.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in your relationship or wondered how to keep passion alive in the midst of life’s chaos, this conversation is packed with practical advice and real talk.

Tune in now and learn how to stop waiting for intimacy to just happen—and start making it happen.

What to expect in this episode:

(03:37) – Should relationships be effortless?

(07:47) – How you can get more intentional intimacy with your significant other.

(13:32) – How women differ to men when it comes to engaging in sex.

(27:28) – Unpacking underneath someone’s sex issues and trauma.

(31:33) – Should you be dating if you’re working on yourself?

(38:49) – Are dating apps worth it if you’re single?

(43:26) – How couples can sustain desire in a busy world.

Follow Chantelle:

Instagram – instagram.com/chantelle_otten_sexologist/

Website – chantelleotten.com/